I really enjoyed watching this movie Waiting last night. It has something in it which most of us ignore.
If I am asked to summarize the message of this movie in a few sentences, it would go on something like this. Anything can happen in your life at any point of time. You might not accept it, but there is a good chance that someday something very bad will happen. You will be helpless. You will curse others for they have not felt your situation. But life moves on, and so should you!
If you ever face a situation where things are not in your hands, say just like in the movie, a very near one of you has met with an accident, crying doesn't help. Ofcourse, I agree it is easier said that done! But Naseeruddin Shah coveys it concisely - "However bad the situation may be, three things should never stop - eating, sleeping and bathing."
The movie also touches upon the issue of quality of life. And the opinion varies greatly, both in the movie and in real life. I am of the opinion that no one except the victim should have the right to decide what quality of life he wants to live.
But what if the affected person himself is depressed? I guess the doctor in charge should take over the rights. But how come we decide when shouold this be done. What if the quality of life for that person has really gone downhill just like it was depicted in Guzaarish? Conflicting!
I would love to hear your opinions in the comments!
While writing all this, two people and their quotes did cross my mind. And I guess quoting those down would be better than attempting to put it down in my own words.
Stephen Hawking has this great line in the end of the movie The Theory of Everything - "There should be no boundaries to human endeavor. We are all different. However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do, and succeed at. While there's life, there is hope."
This person has always been my inspiration. You ask, why? Read the lines in the previous para again. If this person whose quality of life worsened so much, could show this level of optimism, there should and must never be any point in my life where I should be sad or depressed about something bad going on with me!
The other quote comes from Gregory House. Oh, please don't say that you don't know him. But he has a lot to say on this topic, and here was one little piece from him on this to Thirteen - "Almost dying changes nothing, Dying changes everything."
I would just repeat the last sentence of Hawking because that's where the essence lies - While there is life, there is hope!
Then the movie speaks of the four phases that we go through when we are going through a bad situation : denial, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Interestingly, they all come in this order only.
And the talk of positivity that everyone showers on us in difficult times is useless. You really want to make the other person feel better? Make them talk, and better listen. It might work.
While both the main characters in movie conveyed all these things quite beautifully, we might tend to forget the role of the doctor here. The one whose emotional intelligence is of utmost importance while dealing with the patients.
I always have a great respect for doctors. How come someone be so good at managing their work life balance? The doctors are the best people to learn from! He was the one in the movie who knew what was a better for the patients, and their family members. And this is what the ending reflected.
Speaking of the ending, their final decisions reflected how powerless we are. Our limited knowledge of medicine can't help our dear ones. We can just have a faith on good doctors and "wait"! :)
And yeah, I feel better with this blog as my noticeboard, rather than some social media site. At least, I am proud of what I write here! :)